Many people have ambitions to be happier, achieve more, be more creative and generally improve their sense of well being. Many of us have the best of intentions to do this at various times in our lives (on New Years’ Eve for example!) but often get lost somewhere along the way. The reasons we get lost are both numerous and varied but what is sometimes lacking is a plan, a strategy or an idea of how to go about creating the results we want.
In nearly twenty years of practice, I have noticed that for many people, there is no single thing that enriches their lives more, emotionally and creatively, than to grow in self-esteem. But just how do we do that? At first thought, it seems like an impossible task, a prospect so overwhelming that it can appear daunting. Over the next few weeks, I am going to give you some starting points to think about. Even if you pick up on just one of them and follow it through into action that is appropriate for you, it will have the potential to bring about remarkable change.
Self-Parenting
Self-esteem growth has a great deal to do with self-parenting. By this, I mean learning to relate to ourselves in the way that a good parent would relate to his or her own child. Do we treat ourselves with genuine unconditional love, care and respect? Do we effectively nurture and nourish our bodies? Do we adequately respect our own feelings? If the answer to any of these questions is ‘no’, then we need to make a decision to change aspects of our thinking and behaviour, in order to reflect good self parenting, even if it feels strange at first. Self-parenting is the process by which we heal ourselves – the result is Self Esteem.
Self-Awareness
This is about making a decision to deepen our level of self-understanding. We like to think that we know ourselves but this is never the case. Some people with very low self-esteem erroneously believe that they are worthless. Growing in self-awareness may mean that you come to realise perhaps for the first time, that you are of value.
Self-Acceptance
True self-acceptance doesn’t mean that we agree with or like everything we see in ourselves but it does mean that for the moment we are prepared to approach ourselves in a non-judgmental way. Facing the truth about ourselves may mean accepting that we are not as “bad” as we thought we were!
You can contact me via www.theconsultingrooms.co.uk. Personal consultations are available in Burnham-on-Sea, Somerset which is easily accessible from Bristol, Bath and North Somerset, South Wales, Gloucestershire, Wiltshire, Dorset, and Devon. You will find me very close to the M5 junction 22 at Brent Knoll between Bridgwater and Weston-super-Mare |
