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| 02 Dec 2009 04:36:08 pm |
 Script Questionaire |
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This questionaire follows on from my 3 September 2008 posting about the Transactional Analysis concept of 'Scripts'.
The following questions are designed to give you some insight into the ‘scripts’ that may be operating in your life.
What kind of person are you?
What kind of person is your mother now? (if alive)
What kind of person was she before you were ten?
What kind of person is your father now? (if alive)
What kind of person was he before you were ten?
What was your mother’s favourite saying?
What was your father’s favourite saying?
How did your mother praise you?
For what?
How did your father praise you?
For what?
How did your mother punish/criticize you?
For what?
How did your father punish/criticize you?
For what?
What did your mother hope you would be/do?
What did your father hope you would be/do?
What were your favourite stories/nursery rhymes when you were young?
How old will you be when you die?
What would you write on your tombstone?
What would others write on your tombstone?
List up to 5 permissions your mother gave you as a child.
List up to 5 permissions your father gave you as a child.
List up to 5 injunctions/drivers your mother gave you as a child.
List up to 5 injunctions /drivers your father gave you as a child.
If you had 3 wishes, what or how would you change?
Working on your script can put you in touch with the messages that are operating in your present situation, help you to recognise the helpful and unhelpful ones and give you the opportunity to be more in control of your life.
You can contact me via www.theconsultingrooms.co.uk or by telephone on +44 (0)1278 784490. Personal consultations are available in Burnham-on-Sea, Somerset which is easily accessible from Bristol, Bath and North Somerset, South Wales, Gloucestershire, Wiltshire, Dorset, and Devon. You will find me very close to the M5 junction 22 at Brent Knoll between Bridgwater and Weston-super-Mare. |
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| 25 Nov 2009 04:48:24 pm |
| Buddhist Prayer |
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I came accross this Buddhist Prayer again today and wanted to share it with you.
Quote : May all beings be well, safe and peaceful. May we be free from the suffering of fear, anger and ill will. May we find forgiveness for the harms we bring to one another. May we cultivate loving kindness, compassion, sympathetic joy and equanimity. May we live in peace and harmony.
You can contact me via www.theconsultingrooms.co.uk or by telephone on +44 (0)1278 784490. Personal consultations are available in Burnham-on-Sea, Somerset which is easily accessible from Bristol, Bath and North Somerset, South Wales, Gloucestershire, Wiltshire, Dorset, and Devon. You will find me very close to the M5 junction 22 at Brent Knoll between Bridgwater and Weston-super-Mare. |
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| 15 Feb 2009 08:01:45 pm |
| Presentation Skills |
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Hypnotherapy can be a great help to those who suffer presentation nerves. However, it cannot substitute effective preparation.
Top Ten Speaker Complaints
Here are the Top 10 Speaker Complaints – giving you some ideas perhaps of what to avoid 
(1) Speakers who read their notes
(2) Speakers who make no “connection “ with the audience
(3) Speakers who provide no or very sketchy documentation
(4) Speakers who either provide no slides, too many slides or slides which are too cramped, in small fonts or otherwise illegible
(5) Speakers who do not cover the points raised in the published programme
(6) Speakers whose presentations overlap
(7) Speakers who try and sell their services to the delegates (however subtly!)
(8 Speakers who run overtime, throwing the overall timing of the programme out
(9) Speakers who do not tailor their speech to the level of experience and needs of their audience
(10) Speakers who fail to appear at all!
You can contact me via www.theconsultingrooms.co.uk or by telephone on +44 (0)1278 784490. Personal consultations are available in Burnham-on-Sea, Somerset which is easily accessible from Bristol, Bath and North Somerset, South Wales, Gloucestershire, Wiltshire, Dorset, and Devon. You will find me very close to the M5 junction 22 at Brent Knoll between Bridgwater and Weston-super-Mare. |
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| 13 Oct 2008 08:03:45 pm |
| Stress & Control |
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Rotter first introduced the notion of locus of control in 1966, to distinguish between individuals who attributed the source of control to themselves (internal orientation) and those who felt at the mercy of external forces or fate (external orientation).
Research has shown that the two types of locus of control have very different implications for stress. For instance, people with a strong sense of personal control over their lives (internal) appear to suffer less from stressors because they believe that they exercise control over their own successes and failures.
So when we can predict a stressor it has less impact on us and perceived control is a vital element in how we react to stress. For example, in experiments unexpected electric shocks were shown to depress the immune system but, when a warning was given, no effect on the immune system was found. Uncontrollable stressors evoke a much greater stress response than a similar stressor to which the person feels he has a measure of control. This is why the elderly moving into sheltered accommodation often experience so much stress - they perceive themselves as losing control over their environment. It has also been shown that boosting a patient’s sense of control helps in the management of pain.
In addition, it would seem (Parkes 1984) that ‘internals’ and ‘externals’ display different coping strategies when experiencing stress. Whereas ‘externals’ are inclined to employ a generalised coping strategy in all situations regardless of the circumstances, ‘internals’ tend to modify their coping responses according to their appraisal of the situation encountered. ‘Internals’ may therefore be more aware of opportunities to effect a desirable outcome and so to influence the course of events. However ‘internals’ tend to be more susceptible to stress when faced with uncontrollable life events (Meadows 1989) and a disposition towards very high internality is not necessarily desirable.
Locus of control is a learned personality trait which can be modified with practice.
You can contact me via www.theconsultingrooms.co.uk or by telephone on +44 (0)1278 784490. Personal consultations are available in Burnham-on-Sea, Somerset which is easily accessible from Bristol, Bath and North Somerset, South Wales, Gloucestershire, Wiltshire, Dorset, and Devon. You will find me very close to the M5 junction 22 at Brent Knoll between Bridgwater and Weston-super-Mare. |
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| 03 Sep 2008 12:46:12 pm |
| Scripts |
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Following on from my July posting about 'Basic Needs' and my mention of 'scripting', here is some more information derived from Transactional Analysis that I hope you will find interesting.
Parents, among others are the people who teach us what is acceptable behaviour in both the family and the environment in which we live. Behaviour is based on the attitudes we develop and the beliefs we hold about others and ourselves. Much of this learning is not at a conscious level but is shaped by the experiences we have, the messages we receive, and the decisions we make as a consequence.
Permissions are positive messages that encourage you to grow up to like yourself, develop your personality fully and to grow up as a ‘good enough’ person - e.g. “be happy”, “be healthy”, “be yourself”, “be loving”.
Injunctions are messages that are restrictive or destructive, which stunt emotional growth and development, so you may grow up with a sense that somehow you are never good enough, either for yourself or others - e.g. “don’t show your feelings”, “don’t cry”, “don’t make a mess”.
Drivers are messages that may seem positive and socially acceptable but they can have an unpleasant sting in the tail. The message drives us on, rather than being in the driving seat yourself. “Hurry up”, “be perfect”, “try hard”, “please others”, and “be strong” are said to be the five major drivers. Sometimes we can channel these drivers in a way that is helpful but in other situations, if the driver is very strong, it may be unhelpful.
Pleasing others for example, can be pleasant and is part of human behaviour. If, however, you always try to please others (and never yourself) you are unlikely to succeed, may not receive the approval you need and feelings of bitterness, resentment and depression result.
Working on your script can put you in touch with the messages that are operating in your present situation, help you to recognise the helpful and unhelpful ones and give you the opportunity to be more in control of your life.
You can contact me via www.theconsultingrooms.co.uk or by telephone on +44 (0)1278 784490. Personal consultations are available in Burnham-on-Sea, Somerset which is easily accessible from Bristol, Bath and North Somerset, South Wales, Gloucestershire, Wiltshire, Dorset, and Devon. You will find me very close to the M5 junction 22 at Brent Knoll between Bridgwater and Weston-super-Mare. |
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